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Asking distant cousins for DNA?

I battled with how to approach this when I first set out on my DNA testing 'saga' about two years ago and have learned a few things over now 60 plus completed kits that I manage across multiple family ...
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Asking distant cousins for DNA?

Unless you find a living cousin who shares your interest in family history, and in DNA tracing, your efforts may be wasted. Those who have no particular interest in family history are unlikely to ...
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Managing MyHeritage messages

I'm sure you know about the little mail icon on the top bar. If you click on that, it will bring up your inbox, which you can switch to your sent messages. You are correct that there is no search ...
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Contacting AncestryDNA match?

There are really two main reasons why you may not get a reply to your Ancestry message: The person does not want to be in contact with you. The person did not receive the message. If (1), there is ...
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How to reach out to strangers that could be relatives from an illegitimate birth?

There is no single best way to do this but in my research I have come across some similar situations including for some close family as well as had people reach out to me trying to establish a ...
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How to effectively communicate your tree for DNA Matches in first contact emails?

An elegant solution to this problem was published by Artefacts in a post dated Sunday, 8 February 2015, on the blog Analytic Genealogy: Genetic genealogy needs horizontal pedigree charts. A seven ...
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How to reach out to strangers that could be relatives from an illegitimate birth?

Rather than a lawyer, which might give the wrong impression, I would suggest you look for someone who provides counselling and intermediary services for adoption reunions. While your family's case is ...
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Contacting living distant relatives?

I can tell you what not to do. I have a pretty bad record when contacting distant relatives. I am good at getting a response, but then I think I throw too much information at them, and they get turned ...
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Contacting AncestryDNA match?

You have attempted to make contact using the only means made available by Ancestry.com which is their messaging system. If, three times, your message has not been seen and/or responded to then I ...
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Balancing availability and privacy for family stories?

I keep two online trees, a public version that strips all of that type of information, and a private one that includes everything. To access the private tree, users (family members) must login and be ...
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